Not wanting to know the details of the death or think that dismally crying makes us lose the strength are just some of the topics that we try to avoid when the loss occurs more frequently of a loved one. Psychologists recommend to depart from the following errors: think that when the person dies, loses his memory the memory and emotional linkages do not disappear. They remain, and appear in the form of passengers memories or dreams. Believe that to overcome the pain we must immediately return to our daily chores should be to give us a time to reflect and to live the pain coping with the hard emotional process that involves loss. Think that we must not know the details of the death or see the body though it may be hard, know the details of the disappearance of the beloved person helps to accept the reality of the absence. Lack of information can generate confusion and unrealistic fantasies. Believe that when demonstrates anger, pain or despair it is more exposed to the depression expression of These feelings is necessary because it allows the loss to be processed and is drawn up the duel, although they can be perceived as manifestations exaggerated or own cultures or underdeveloped countries.
Consider that the affection for the absent should express with great restraint but firmness of character and fortitude, are valued in our culture must allow us to freely express the painful emotions. Undertake radical changes is not the best time to sell properties, decide to change of residence, be responsible for the grandchildren to alleviate loneliness left to pass the time before making important decisions. Keep things as when was your clothes in the same place, the room as always do shrines in memory of your loved one. You’ll always remember, and therefore, it will continue with you. Retain the ashes at home households are spaces of life, not death. Do not fall into the temptation to turn your House into a shrine. You hampering the process of mourning.
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